A Cheatham County couple is facing a predicament they call unconscionable: must they give back the child they adopted from the Tennessee Department of Children’s Services?
Just because a child is adopted doesn't mean that the family isn't a "real" family. Please be respectful of the vast amount of adoptive families and children who are just as real and loved as your family.
My friend had adopted a baby some years ago, from Indiana. The state would not release med records, child was fetal alcohol. Many severe problems, no insurance. She was forced to leave him with a state doctor to get help for him. She almost went to jail to help her son. She was a REAL mother and worked much overtime to try to provide for him herself, but could not. It was LOVE as well as DESPERATION to get HIS NEEDS met. The fault was with the state.
Many adoptive families take children who are damaged and not wanted, and children who have been abused and neglected. I know. I adopted two grandchildren, and I watched them be abused and neglected, and their mother have four babies in four years and let all of them be taken away, one at a time, for gross neglect. The states gave her a year at a time to learn to parent, with state paid services and support. These children were not stolen, they were RESCUED.
I am nearly sixty years old, the "golden years" of supposed retirement. I willingly gave my retirement years to raising two small children with disabilities, so they would have a family and a life OUTSIDE of the system. I am so tired of hearing that all foster parents and adoptive parents steal perfectly fine children from loving supportive families and do it for the money. I have not gotten even medical insurance and my family bills have gone unpaid many times so these children could have therapy, medicine and education. I would not have it any other way.
Very well SAID An0nymous!!! I myself is a foster parent w/the option to adopt a "broken"/problem child... I 2 hear that foster parent do what we do for the monies... LOL!!! In all reality I only get pd.$22. per day.. who in the world can raise a child on that... So, Anon. all that U have posted was well said.
What in the world is "damaged" kid? Just because a kid has difficulties, medical, social, whatever, it does not make them damaged. And it is not hard to understand that there are some families who really do love their adoptive children, but there are also many who don't love them as much as their "real" children. They are second best.
Ok, so there are a few foster families who have taken them in out of love. Have you seen the many where foster kids are treated like dirt? I have seen kids in these homes. They were physically and emotionally abused. They eat eggs everyday for dinner,and wear clothes and shoes too small for them. And, in the end, if they actually are able to go home to the parents who do love and actually care for them, they are not allowed to take their stuff home, even if it was bought by their parents. The foster family keeps it for their kids, or other foster children. No, not all foster parents are like this,but the problem is that they are out there, making things harder for kids who had it rough as it was. ANd they are practically locked in the system, with no way to remove them.
To Anonymous who said, "Who can raise a child on $22.00 a day?" A Biological parent! In fact biological parent's raise their children often times on even less.
We didn't give him up, they (CPS) took him( due to him endangering another child) and over a year and a half later, we are still fighting for him. We even spoke to a Federal Judge about this. Title iv-E needs amending to really be called the Safe Family and Adoption Act, as parental rights, constitutional rights, and civil rights seem to be thrown to the wind when severe mental health is the issue. Don't judge others who have stepped up to the plate and answered the call to adopt the exceptional children from state custody. Instead, raise them up as we love this child, continue to support his every need, and haven't given up yet!
My son needed care that wasn't covered by my insurance,we made it through. Oh, yeah we were a real family not a forever family so I never gave up!
ReplyDeleteJust because a child is adopted doesn't mean that the family isn't a "real" family. Please be respectful of the vast amount of adoptive families and children who are just as real and loved as your family.
ReplyDeleteDear Anonymous
ReplyDeleteMany adoptive families take stolen children.
My friend had adopted a baby some years ago, from Indiana. The state would not release med records, child was fetal alcohol. Many severe problems, no insurance. She was forced to leave him with a state doctor to get help for him. She almost went to jail to help her son. She was a REAL mother and worked much overtime to try to provide for him herself, but could not. It was LOVE as well as DESPERATION to get HIS NEEDS met. The fault was with the state.
ReplyDeleteMany adoptive families take children who are damaged and not wanted, and children who have been abused and neglected. I know. I adopted two grandchildren, and I watched them be abused and neglected, and their mother have four babies in four years and let all of them be taken away, one at a time, for gross neglect. The states gave her a year at a time to learn to parent, with state paid services and support. These children were not stolen, they were RESCUED.
ReplyDeleteI am nearly sixty years old, the "golden years" of supposed retirement. I willingly gave my retirement years to raising two small children with disabilities, so they would have a family and a life OUTSIDE of the system. I am so tired of hearing that all foster parents and adoptive parents steal perfectly fine children from loving supportive families and do it for the money. I have not gotten even medical insurance and my family bills have gone unpaid many times so these children could have therapy, medicine and education. I would not have it any other way.
ReplyDeleteVery well SAID An0nymous!!!
ReplyDeleteI myself is a foster parent w/the option
to adopt a "broken"/problem child... I 2 hear that foster parent
do what we do for the monies... LOL!!!
In all reality I only get pd.$22. per day.. who in the world can raise a child on that... So, Anon. all that U have posted was well said.
What in the world is "damaged" kid? Just because a kid has difficulties, medical, social, whatever, it does not make them damaged. And it is not hard to understand that there are some families who really do love their adoptive children, but there are also many who don't love them as much as their "real" children. They are second best.
ReplyDeleteOk, so there are a few foster families who have taken them in out of love. Have you seen the many where foster kids are treated like dirt? I have seen kids in these homes. They were physically and emotionally abused. They eat eggs everyday for dinner,and wear clothes and shoes too small for them. And, in the end, if they actually are able to go home to the parents who do love and actually care for them, they are not allowed to take their stuff home, even if it was bought by their parents. The foster family keeps it for their kids, or other foster children.
ReplyDeleteNo, not all foster parents are like this,but the problem is that they are out there, making things harder for kids who had it rough as it was. ANd they are practically locked in the system, with no way to remove them.
To Anonymous who said, "Who can raise a child on $22.00 a day?" A Biological parent! In fact biological parent's raise their children often times on even less.
ReplyDeleteWe didn't give him up, they (CPS) took him( due to him endangering another child) and over a year and a half later, we are still fighting for him. We even spoke to a Federal Judge about this. Title iv-E needs amending to really be called the Safe Family and Adoption Act, as parental rights, constitutional rights, and civil rights seem to be thrown to the wind when severe mental health is the issue. Don't judge others who have stepped up to the plate and answered the call to adopt the exceptional children from state custody. Instead, raise them up as we love this child, continue to support his every need, and haven't given up yet!
ReplyDelete