By Ernesto

I had the first conference on the foster care agency,(01/21/11) me, my fiancé, her grandmother, who takes care the babies, our foster case worker, and over the phone, (CPS) case worker.

What they want me to do?

Mental Health /Emotional Stability

Parenting Skills

Housing

Anger Management (Agency requirement)

Domestic relationship /Family violence

The cps case worker, saying that I have to do that in the court papers is nothing about that, my bench lawyer told me before I went to the conference to no sign anything, and if they ask for parenting skills was better to do it, so it look good, but that’s it. Can’t wait to Monday to speak to my lawyer

Mental Health /Emotional Stability: Well I am going to ask my lawyer about this, if I can do that,why? Because I think that maybe I need it, no because I had some mental problem before; but for now yes because they took my baby, from the hospital I was not able to see the first time when she open her eyes pick her up change her pamper give her bottle etc, yes that is changing me a lot, and I will try to fight CPS up until I can’t anymore

Anger management: why? Because my fiancé had that case worker since September 2009, with her first daughter, now since I am involve in this case because we just had a baby together born(01/07/11) second daughter for her. so I have the same case worker with my fiancé, anyway “ if speak up” means anger for them, I guess I need it. I was the one that was always speaking up for her when something was not right, that is why the case worker do not like me.

Housing: I work as a maintenance worker for a small church, and a small private house where I live and were services are perform almost daily, weekends bible stories, English, Spanish, on the week days some other groups come to use the space.

I am the only one who is allowed to be living in there, so the cps worker said that my fiancé has to go to a mother /child program, to reunite with her babies, they told her to do that with her first baby before, so when she go, will be living there they said from 18 months to 24 months after some time she can have visits (me) this is not reuniting families this is destroying families, concerning me they want me to go to a shelter. The caseworker and cps worker said in the conference that if I not go to a shelter I will be restricted to see my baby for not complain with the shelter myself .when my fiancé gets the baby (who knows how many months after she resides in mother/child program can she have the baby)

So they want me to get out to a shelter, so what I suppose to do with all my belongings just throw away all my things, go to a shelter and forget about anything that I have in here where I stay. (My things, my housing, sometimes I get some money for doing extra work in here).

Domestic relationship /Family violence: they want that too, why? Because they feel that I do not supposed to be with my fiancé why? Because she is 24 years and I am 49 years old. When the first time on CPS conference was representatives from her programs, ACS here (CPS), they may me go out of the room so they try to convince my fiancé that I was abuse or violent towards her trying to insinuating that I was to old to be with her.

Now after the 3 meeting with CPS on (02-01-11)

Well my fiancé was advice; from her counselor at the drug program that she is going every day, ( outpatient), that before the new CPS meeting on (02/01/11) was better for her to admit herself as single impatient, up until, according to the same people on the program, open the mother and child program on March, so we talk about it and she did it, she admit herself on, 01/31/11, one day before the CPS meeting.

Came the CPS meeting on 02/01/11, so we had separate conferences, her was before mine, and I was not able to see her since she went with her counselor as an escort, and to speak for her that she was already in a program.

Then came my turn, 3 CPS workers and 3 Foster care workers, thank god that a paralegal came with me, they was saying if I did anything of what they said before, I said not, and I do not get any referrals from my case worker foster agency. That I need to got to a shelter I said I am the one to is allow to be there so I will not move from there.

That I need to do a “family violence program” my lawyer said why and they said because I have a controlling behavior? My lawyer said that I was not like that and they said to the lawyer “ you was not there on the first meeting and several people saw that he was controlling her”

So if I told my fiancé to come down relax because she was getting to agitated for the things they were saying, on the first meeting, I am controlling her? So they when they was telling her to do the same, what?, I do not understand this people, putting things where there is nothing, one of the cps workers was saying again that the house was a safety concern that has locks etc. , I do not let her finish and I call her a liar, because she was lying, later she said well your fiancé do not have any keys of the house, I said to her she do not need any.

The problem with the locks (they try to say that the house has a front fence with a lock, and if I lock it, no one can come or go from the premises), that was a lie because if I lock it yes no one can come in but anyone on the inside can go out.

Later she was saying CPS worker that she can’t get inside and that the door inside was lock and the same bushit, told then that the inside door to the house is always locked like any other door, or they want me to live that open for anyone? She said, yes but it is lock and no one can’t come out, I said that inside of the door it has a panic bar so no one needs a key to leave.

Now in this meeting trying to said that I control her so this way they have the chance to put her on a residential program, I found out now from someone that they not sure if the mother and child program will be ready for march, probably April or May.

I went today to my second visit with my daughter from 2pm to 3pm, my fiance is from 3pm to 4pm, we can’t see the baby at the same time, my fiance pass by were I was and now she got in trouble, they said that she is not allow to be with me, when she went back to her program with the escort , she called me without then knowing from a pay phone and some one saw her so she is in big problem, she is not allow to talk or be with me? I do not understand this if she do not went impatient she will still be here with me waiting for the opening of the mother and child program?, and now everything changes, I think they just want for her to be in there, forget about me and that is it.

In the meeting the cps ask the foster agency how long before, I can have the baby, they said about 6 months, that is what they told my fiance too, so what game they are playing , who is going to have the baby, and really how long.

It is true it is hard to fight CPS, even without any real evidence of anything they rapidly manufacture fake evidence against oneself, so we can be in their web of programs, so they can get pay for more merchandise. That they bring (Us).

What to do?

Go to the media internet what I am lost here, thinking of leaving her on the program, am lost.

Now the big day is coming on (02/10/11) is the court date and I know they will try to put in there that is a case of family violence where before was something else, so this way I will not have any contact with her, and who knows what else, can happen, I believe that someone from her program will try to said that she went to the program for something else (violence) since they convince her of getting inside before march?