Submitted by Anonymous

I missed my son's 6th birthday on 7/31 because he was legally kidnapped by his father's mother on 07/16.

His father has some serious issues with anger management,jealously, drugs/drinking dementia etc... We've known each other for life and have been friends for 20 years.

At the end of May a mutual friend of ours stayed with me for about a week while looking for a place to live after completing the salvation army program for prior heroin use. He's been clean for over a year...

One day while he was staying with me my son's school nurse tried to reach me, but my phone had gone haywire and I was missing calls. My son has a mild case of autism and attends a school that is supposed to have trained professionals to meet his needs, and understand his disorder. She was trying to reach me because he hadn't gone pee all morning and he was saying ouch. She personally diagnosed it a full blown uti and got in touch with his father after she couldn't reach me. Daddy picks up our son and pulls up to the house screaming at me about being a whore while our son needs to go to the er. I pulled my boy out of the car and made his father leave. As soon as my son walked through the door he went directly to the bathroom and took a long pee while giggling and singing. I called the school nurse to advise her that he was just fine and their was no need for him to see a doctor. This phone call was made moments before my son's father went back to the school to inform the nurse that I'm living with a junkie and I'm neglecting my son because I'm a heroin whore.

The next day DCF is at my door because they received a mandated report of neglect. We were having dinner when they arrived. Everyone was sober. My home was clean... I called and made an appointment for the next day to have a urine screen with 3 workers standing in front of me.
The screen came back negative, but DCF was at my door a second time before we even had the lab results. They decided I'm a good mother, but could use an advocate to help me get services available as I'm a single parent with an autistic child. That means they supported the neglect charge.

The advocate was supposed to work with me for 45 days and close the case. In the middle of this my son's father files for custody based on me being a junkie. His mother went with him to support his cause.

The advocate tells me that if I leave the state everything will be dropped & I won't have to battle him about it. She knows I'm a loving mother and he's a homeless drunk. I pack everything I own and get a place to stay close to my family. This move was totally supported by my DCF worker. So daddy was playing nice with me again and wrote and notarized a letter advising he knew we were moving out of state and he was fine with my decision.

I told his mother we were moving, because I wanted to be upfront and honest. I have her only grandchild and even though we have our differences I let her know she was welcome to visit anytime. She was cool with it..and went to the probate court and filed for emergency temp custody because me and his father both have drug/alcohol issues, unaddressed mental problems and we're unfit parents. The same case worker that supported my move and knows the truth did a 360 and supported the grandmother.

Grandma went to SSI/TANF the day after she picked my son up with the cops. Since then I'm taking drug screens 3 times a week, taking a 15 week parenting program, completely reformed my life to the desires of DCF, and a week before my court date someone (daddy)breaks into my apartment and trashes it. smashes phones,leaves nasty letters, destroys personal property and steals everything of value. So I got a restraining order.

Then his mother went from being sorry & wanting to give my son back to not wanting to talk with me at all, because she believed her son didn't do it. HE LEFT A NOTE!!! Grandma brings an attorney with her and they lie together in court... I just want my son for the SSI and who knows if I've ever had a job and I should take a court ordered hair follicle drug screen because I could easily alter my urine. I was taking drug screens voluntarily in the probation office.

Nothing she said would have mattered at that point and they would have gave custody back except the DCF worker said she thinks I need therapy for going through emotional abuse and because my mother was murdured when I was 11, and my house isn't safe because his father could come back and fight with me in front of him anytime.

So then grandma decides to play nice again 2 days after court. Then she took my son to the ER for a tantrum at the advice of her therapist. He stayed in the psych ward of a children hospital for 4 days and she didn't visit once. She also agreed to have him put on drugs. I went out with them for the day on Saturday & noticed multiple abrasions on his neck and bruises on his back. I asked her 4 times what happened before she told me the marks were from her struggling with him to get dressed.

Then she plays nice again. My son was sick a few days ago so I went to her house to comfort him with bedtime stories and his big stuffed duck. We fell asleep together. She woke me up at 9 and we talked till 1am. Our conversation lead to her saying we should have a meeting to see if she can give him back before the next court date. When we went for the meeting she tried to see what she could do to keep him for another year so she could get an apartment with her other son(ALSO INTO DRUGS & ALCOHOL)that she already put a deposit on...and she won't be able to afford without my son's SSI check.

Any of this sound familiar?